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Today Tyler Woods talks about a great natural remedy for depression, anxiety, and hopelessness. You cannot buy it at a drug store, you doctor cannot prescribe it to you. It does not come in a pill or a bottle and your insurance company does not cover it. It is called optimism.

Dr Woods knows that optimism is the tendency to believe, expect or hope that things will turn out well. Even if something bad happens, like the loss of a job or money, an optimist sees the silver lining. Everything is a possibility and nothing is a crisis. A person is optimistic believes everything happens for a reason and trusts the process.

The emerging field of positive psychology studies the positive impact that optimism has on mental health. Other research shows that optimism may be good for my physical health too—optimists are sick less and live longer than pessimists. Apparently, a positive outlook on life strengthens the immune system (and the body’s defenses against illness.

Being an optimist or a pessimist boils down to the way you talk to yourself. Optimists believe that their own actions result in positive things happening, that they are responsible for their own happiness, and that they can expect more good things to happen in the future. Optimists don’t blame themselves when bad things happen. They view bad events as results of something outside of themselves.

Because of their thought processes, optimists have much brighter futures. A bad circumstance or event is taken in stride, viewed as a temporary setback—not a permanent way of life. Even if something bad happens today, a positive thinker believes that good things will come again in the future.

So how can we stay optimistic? Listen to days show

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In today’s show we try to understand what family dysfunction is. Text books have been written about it, however in a quick nutshell, family dysfunction is a family where there is an abundance of conflict, but not just conflict but where these conflicts create misbehavior. These behaviors can turn into abuse, addictions, such as substance abuse, alcohol, drugs, prescribed medication, and very often an untreated mental illness. Dysfunctional families often live with lies, anger and confusion. There is often dysfunction in a family, however too much dysfunction turns into problems that can have a profound impact on family members. In a functional or healthy family, you will find respect between all the family members. treat the children with respect and the children treat the parents with respect. In a dysfunctional family respect is hardly ever found.

As you grow older and more independent, you begin to realize the dysfunctional tendencies of the family no longer conducive to your lifestyle. By now, you might have learned that the dysfunctional family harmed your self-esteem and confused you. You come to terms that it causes havoc in all relationships in your life. The idea is not to get discouraged. Know that you can make change and this change will not happen overnight, but it will happen. It is vital that you keep in mind as you make the changes that it does not mean you are going to get along much better with your relatives. It simply means you are going to learn how to deal with their dysfunction and feel good about who you are. You will begin how to unravel the dysfunctional.

Dysfunctional families have a tendency to rob people of self worth and esteem. Make sure you work on this by doing esteemable acts for yourself. In addition, make sure you show yourself compassion. Often there is no compassion in dysfunctional families and it is key to understanding the root of healing is through compassion of self and others.

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Do you remember how you felt when life was simple? Well the truth is truth is life still is easy.  It always will be.  The only difference is we are older, and the older we get, the more we complicate things for ourselves. You see, when we were young we saw the world through simple, hopeful eyes.  We knew what we wanted and we went for it…it was simple.   We ate when we were hungry, drank when we were thirsty, and slept when we were tired.

As we got older life became more complicated-we have jobs, family, friends, relationships, debt, worry, stress, lack of communication, and everything begins to stack up. The problem is we complicated life as we got older and when that happens we feel trapped, we feel like there is no way out, but I can tell you there are so many ways to make your life simple, and today i am going to give you a handful of ideas.

Okay so Don’t try to read other people’s minds.  Don’t make other people try to read yours.  Communicate. Put the cell phone away and talk!

Be polite, but don’t try to be friends with everyone around you.  That is just ridiculous and complicated Instead, spend time nurturing your relationships with the people who matter most to you.

Your health is your life, keep up with it.  Eat right, drink responsibly, take supplements, don’t smoke, sleep, exercise, use a common sense approach to your health.

You don’t have to have it all….so  Don’t buy stuff you don’t need. 

Don’t waste your time on jealously.  The only person you’re competing against is yourself. i see this all the time people jealous so much so that women are not allowed to have men friends and men cant have women friends, and I always wonder if you are in a relationship and you are not allowed to have friendships with the opposite sex are you in a relationship or a hostage situation.

Here is a good one, how about you Get rid of stuff you don’t use. Really I see people put stuff in storage and they will never use the stuff but they keep it….it’s like keeping track of junk….it is not productive.

Ask someone if you aren’t sure. It is a simple rule, rather than making assumptions, just ask….

Don’t try to please everyone then we get into enabling and we get with people who want us to take care of them, and then our life becomes so complicated the next thing you know we are going to alon meetings, on a tons of medications, and wonder how we got there….take care of yourself!

Be sure to pay your bills on time.

Handle important two-minute tasks immediately. Why wait until the 2 minute tasks become 10 twenty minute tasks.

Finish one project before you start another. We complicate life by having so many unfinished things that nothing ever gets done and we feel like a failure.

Here is a big one and I see it all too often….DRAMA so Stay out of other people’s drama.  And don’t needlessly create your own. If you are living your life to its fullest, you wont need the drama. It is that simple.

I do this, and it keeps me on a good path, I only buy things with cash. PERIOD….I refuse credit cards I do not want the hassle of bills and debt, so I pay cash, and I will get into this one more in another show because finances really does create havoc.

Most important make mistakes, make lots of them, it is how we learn and be willing to learn from them, laugh about them, and move along.

You can see there are many things you can do to simply your life and improve it, I am sure can think of a great deal too, so make it a reality and remember keep life simple….

For today, this is Dr Tyler Woods saying walk in peace

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The trip is a wonderful story about lessons that we can about the difference between rags to riches. Learn how we can take something so simple, and make it a treasure and then discover treasures can be something as simple as the night sky.

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